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From 1970 onwards, our culture told both sexes that individual expression was paramount. And for women, that was defined as the right to choose an interesting a career, a high-status mate, the desirable handbag or vacation, the perfect family size, and a definitionally fruitless quest for 'perfection.'
Naomi Wolf
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What this quote means

The quote critiques the societal pressure on women to seek individual expression through superficial choices while suggesting this pursuit can lead to a sense of emptiness.

Naomi Wolf highlights how cultural narratives from 1970 onwards have shaped women's identities, linking their personal fulfillment to choices such as careers, relationships, and lifestyle instead of deeper, meaningful achievements. This emphasis on individual expression, while giving women a sense of freedom, can paradoxically create an unattainable standard of perfection that leaves many feeling unfulfilled.

Themes

Individual ExpressionSocietal PressureWomenIdentityPerfection

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Example use cases

In discussions about gender roles and societal expectations during a seminar.

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