Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.
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Attempts to help humans eliminate all self-ratings and views self-esteem as a self-defeating concept that encourages them to make conditional evaluations of self. Instead, it teaches people unconditional self-acceptance.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of unconditional self-acceptance over conditional self-esteem.
In this quote, Albert Ellis critiques the idea of self-esteem that is contingent on external evaluations or achievements. He argues that such conditional self-assessments can lead to a self-defeating mindset, suggesting that true personal growth comes from accepting oneself without conditions, fostering a healthier and more resilient self-image.
Themes
Self-AcceptanceSelf-EsteemConditionalEvaluationPersonal Growth
In practice
Example use cases
A motivational speaker might use this quote to highlight the need for self-acceptance during a workshop.
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