Of the widow's countless death-duties there is really just one that matters: on the first anniversary of her husband's death the widow should think I kept myself alive.
Joyce Carol OatesRead
If I try to summon back his face, the sound of his voice, and the sensation in my stomach like a key turning in a lock when he touched me, I lose everything.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote explores the complexities and intensity of emotional memories associated with love.
In this quote, Joyce Carol Oates expresses the struggle of holding onto the memories of a loved one. The vivid imagery of summoning back a face, voice, and physical sensations highlights how deeply intertwined love is with our emotions, but also reveals the pain of trying to recapture something that may be lost forever. It suggests that attempting to relive those moments can lead to further loss of what is cherished.
Themes
LoveMemoryLossEmotionSensation
In practice
Example use cases
During a heartfelt conversation about past relationships, I shared this quote to express the difficulty of remembering a lost love.
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