Those of us who can remember our childhoods will recall how ardently we relished the moment of the bedtime story, when our mother or father would sit down beside us in the semi-dark and read from a book of fairy tales.
Bodies count, of course - they count more than we're willing to admit - but we don't fall in love with bodies, we fall in love with each other. We all know that, but the moment we go beyond a catalogue of surface qualities and appearances, words begin to fail us, to crumble apart in mystical confusions and cloudy, unsubstantial metaphors.
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What this quote means
This quote emphasizes that true love transcends physical appearances, focusing instead on deeper emotional connections.
In this quote, Paul Auster articulates the complex nature of love, asserting that while physical attraction is acknowledged, genuine love is rooted in a deeper understanding and connection between individuals. He suggests that when one looks past mere physical attributes, conventional language falls short of capturing the profound emotions and experiences that define intimate relationships, leading to feelings that are often difficult to express.
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Example use cases
In a romantic speech during a wedding, to emphasize the importance of emotional connection over physical appearances.
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