We start making every child ambitious, and ambition means you cannot love; ambition is anti-love. Ambition needs fight, ambition needs struggle, ambition needs you to use others as a means.
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If you are not capable of being alone, your relationship is false. It is just a trick to avoid your loneliness, nothing else.
Interpretation
What this quote means
True relationships require self-sufficiency; dependency makes them inauthentic.
This quote by Rajneesh emphasizes the importance of individuality and self-awareness in relationships. It suggests that if a person cannot be content on their own, then their connections with others may be driven by a desire to escape loneliness rather than genuine emotional bonds, ultimately leading to superficial relationships that lack depth and authenticity.
Themes
RelationshipLonelinessSelf-AwarenessIndependenceAuthenticity
In practice
Example use cases
This quote is perfect for a relationship seminar discussing the importance of individuality in partnerships.
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