When you say, "I need more confidence," what you're really saying is, "I need those people over there to approve of me." That is the desire to control other people and what they think. The first person who figures out how to do this owns the world.
Interpretation
Confidence often stems from our desire for approval from others.
This quote by Augusten Burroughs highlights the underlying truth that many people associate their self-confidence with external validation. When we claim to need more confidence, we are actually expressing a desire for acceptance and approval from others, indicating that true empowerment comes from within, rather than from societal opinions or judgments.
In practice
Use this quote during a workshop on building self-esteem and self-confidence.
This is how you survive the unsurvivable, this is how you lose that which you cannot bear to lose, this is how you reinvent yourself, overcome your abusers, fulfill your ambitions and meet the love of your life: by following what is true, no matter where it leads you.
The truth is humbling, terrifying, and often exhilarating. It blows the doors off the hinges and fills the world with fresh air.
Some damage is too severe, some harm endures. And what you have to do is accept it. And by accept it I mean, don’t be the paralyzed person in the bed who is waiting to walk again. Realize, it’s never gonna happen. And find some other way to get around –swing from a vine, get a Mad Max wheelchair. Anything but…wait.
But then, look at me. My brain is incorrectly formed, and I'm shaped like a tube. Plus, I'm an alcoholic, a "survivor" of childhood sexual abuse, was raised in a cult and have no education. So, really, if you think about it, the only thing that separates me from the guy with the stinky foot and no teeth is a book deal and some cologne.
I think part of the reason I'm attracted to Foster is because he's such a mess. I mean, the people I have loved in my life have never been easy to love. I'm not used to normal. I'm used to disaster. I don't know, as messed up as he is, he's also sort of exciting, sort of a challenge. I'm accustomed to working for love.
Time moves only forward, never back. We look forward to a moment and then it arrives and an instant later it is gone. Like something on the surface of a river that we reached for but did not touch in time and it carried on, away. You cannot be a prisoner of your past against your will. Because you can only live in the past inside your mind.
You don't have to turn this into something. It doesn't have to upset you. Things can't shape our decisions by themselves.
Suffering is unbearable if you aren’t certain that God is for you and with you.
If you have not first pondered the entire situation of the man whom you wish to help, and if you have not brought with you instructions for him to follow henceforth in leading his life, he will not receive great good from your help.
Follow the three R's: - Respect for self. - Respect for others. - Responsibility for all your actions.
When workmen strive to do better than well, they do confound their skill in covetousness.
Too many people spend money they haven't earned to buy things they don't want to impress people they don't like.
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