I used to think that I could never lose anyone if I photographed them enough. In fact, my pictures show me how much I’ve lost.
Interpretation
The quote reflects on the emotional distance created by loss, despite the effort to capture memories through photography.
Nan Goldin's quote reveals a deep introspection about the nature of loss and memory. Although she believed that capturing someone's image through photography could preserve their essence and prevent loss, the act of viewing these photographs ultimately serves as a poignant reminder of what she has lost. This paradox highlights how memories and visual representations can evoke both comfort and sorrow, illustrating the complex interplay between love, memory, and grief in human relationships.
In practice
In a speech about the importance of capturing memories, this quote illustrates the bittersweet nature of remembrance.
A lot of people seem to think that art or photography is about the way things look, or the surface of things. That's not what it's about for me. It's really about relationships and feelings...it's really hard for me to do commercial work because people kind of want me to do a Nan Goldin. They don't understand that it's not about a style or a look or a setup. It's about emotional obsession and empathy.
He is very fond of me, almost too fond. I could do with less caressing and more rationality. I should like to be less of a pet and more of a friend, if I might choose; but I won't complain of that: I am only afraid his affection loses in depth where it gains in ardour. I sometimes liken it to a fire of dry twigs and branches compared with one of solid coal, very bright and hot; but if it should burn itself out and leave nothing but ashes behind.
The bonds that unite us to another human being are sanctified when he or she adopts the same point of view as ourselves in judging one of our imperfections.
My wife was the first romantic partner who understood both American and native parts of me - not so much the positive stuff, but the damage.
People - I mean couples - don't like to talk much about fighting. It's not attractive. No one likes to admit it or describe it or lay claim to it. We want our coupledoms to look... sanitized and pretty and worthy of admiration. And anger blasts are ugly. But, I think that is a crock. There is a kind of fighting that isn't ugly. There is a way for anger to come our as an energy you let loose and away. The trick is to give it a form, and not a human target. The trick is to transform rage.
The colored people of this country know and understand the white people better than the white people know and understand them.
Because trans people are marked as artificial, unnatural, and illegitimate, our bodies and identities are often open to public dissection. Plainly, cisgender folks often take it as their duty to investigate our lives to see if we're real.
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