Personal relations are the important thing for ever and ever, and not this outer life of telegrams and anger.
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It is not that the Englishman can't feel-it is that he is afraid to feel. He has been taught at his public school that feeling is bad form. He must not express great joy or sorrow, or even open his mouth too wide when he talks-his pipe might fall out if he did.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights the Englishman's repression of emotions due to societal norms and education.
E. M. Forster's quote criticizes the cultural conditioning of Englishmen, suggesting that they are taught to suppress their emotions as a matter of decorum. This stifling of natural feelings not only hinders personal expression but may also lead to a sense of emotional inadequacy or disconnection from authentic human experiences.
Themes
EmotionExpressionSocietyRepressionCulture
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about cultural norms, one might use this quote to exemplify how societal expectations can limit personal expression.
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