God how I hate new countries: They are older than the old, more sophisticated, much more conceited, only young in a certain puerile vanity more like senility than anything.
But, especially in love, only counterfeit emotions exist nowadays. We have all been taught to mistrust everybody emotionally, from parents downwards, or upwards. Don’t trust anybody with your real emotions: if you’ve got any: that is the slogan of today. Trust them with your money, even, but never with your feelings. They are bound to trample on them.
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What this quote means
The quote reflects a distrust in genuine emotions and relationships, suggesting that people are often insincere and untrustworthy with their true feelings.
D. H. Lawrence highlights a pervasive skepticism towards emotional authenticity in modern relationships, pointing out that society conditions individuals to guard their feelings against betrayal. He argues that, while people may be trusted with material possessions, they often misuse emotional trust, leading to a culture where genuine emotional connections are rare, and individuals learn to hide their true selves for fear of being hurt.
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You might use this quote when discussing the challenges of modern dating.
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