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In a family, what isn't spoken is what you listen for. But the noise of a family is to drown it out.
Joyce Carol Oates
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Interpretation

What this quote means

This quote highlights the unspoken emotions and tensions within a family, suggesting that communication is often overshadowed by superficial noise.

Joyce Carol Oates points out that within family dynamics, there are significant emotions and truths that remain unexpressed, and it is this silent communication that we are attuned to. However, the everyday sounds and distractions of family life often serve to mask these deeper feelings, making it difficult to truly listen and understand each other.

Themes

FamilyCommunicationSilenceEmotionsDynamics

In practice

Example use cases

In a speech about the importance of family connections, one might say, 'As Joyce Carol Oates observes, in a family, what isn't spoken is what you listen for.'

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