What cannot be talked about cannot be put to rest. And if it is not, the wounds will fester from generation to generation.
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The fear of failure is so great, it is no wonder that the desire to do right by one's children has led to a whole library of books offering advice on how to raise them
Interpretation
What this quote means
Parents often worry about failing in raising their children, which has resulted in a multitude of resources dedicated to parenting advice.
Bruno Bettelheim highlights the immense pressure that parents feel regarding the upbringing of their children. This fear of failing to provide the best possible guidance leads to an overwhelming amount of literature and resources aimed at helping parents navigate the complexities of child-rearing.
Themes
ParentingFailureChildrenAdvicePressure
In practice
Example use cases
Sharing this quote during a parenting seminar to illustrate the pressures parents face.
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