The fears that assault us are mostly simple anxieties about social skills, about intimacy, about likeableness, or about performance. We need not give emotional food or charge to these fears or become attached to them. We don’t even have to shame ourselves for having these fears. Simply ask your fears, “What are you trying to teach me?” Some say that FEAR is merely an acronym for “False Evidence Appearing Real.” From Everything Belongs, p. 143
Interpretation
Fears often stem from social anxieties and insecurities, but we can choose not to let them control us.
This quote emphasizes that many of our fears are rooted in common insecurities regarding social interactions, intimacy, and performance. Instead of allowing these fears to dictate our emotions or actions, we can confront them with curiosity, asking what lesson they hold for us. By recognizing that fear is often based on false perceptions, we can learn to navigate our anxieties with a sense of growth rather than shame.
In practice
Use this quote during a discussion on overcoming personal fears at a self-help seminar.
My scientist friends have come up with things like 'principles of uncertainty' and dark holes. They're willing to live inside imagined hypotheses and theories. But many religious folks insist on answers that are always true. We love closure, resolution and clarity, while thinking that we are people of 'faith'! How strange that the very word 'faith' has come to mean its exact opposite.
The gift of darkness draws you to know God’s presence beyond what thought, imagination, or sensory feeling can comprehend.
I cannot illustrate huge differences between male and female spiritualities except in their starting points, style and fascinations along the way. This is significant, however, and has huge pastoral implications: men must be challenged in the world of doing; women must be challenged in the world of relating.
Much of the Christian religion has largely become “holding on” instead of letting go. But God, it seems to me, does the holding on (to us!), and we must learn the letting go (of everything else).
We do not think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking.
I've had the good fortune of teaching and preaching across much of the globe, while also struggling to make sense of my experience in my own tiny world.
Let Fortune empty her whole quiver on me, I have a soul that, like an ample shield, Can take in all, and verge enough for more; Fate was not mine, nor am I Fate's: Souls know no conquerors.
I want to die with my high heels on, still in action.
I would fight for my liberty so long as my strength lasted, and if the time came for me to go, the Lord would let them take me.
Any soldier worth his salt should be antiwar. And still there are things worth fighting for.
What has always made our country special is that it doesn't matter where you come from; it matters where you're going. Our job is to make certain the pathways are open to both our boys and our girls.
Once every seven days, do something that frightens you. Every time we do something that we resist and is frightening, we actually grow in our power.
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