If you have the guts to be yourself, other people'll pay your price.
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The first breath of adultery is the freest; after it, constraints aping marriage develop.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The initial thrill of an affair feels liberating, but it quickly leads to complications similar to marriage.
In this quote, John Updike highlights the idea that while the beginning of an extramarital affair may feel exhilarating and free from the restraints of commitment, it soon becomes entangled in emotional and social complexities that mirror those found in traditional marital relationships. The quote suggests that even in acts of rebellion against societal norms, one cannot escape the inherent structures and expectations that come with intimacy and companionship.
Themes
AdulteryRelationshipsFreedomConstraintsMarriage
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about the nature of relationships, one might say, 'As Updike pointed out, the first breath of adultery can seem liberating, but soon it becomes complicated.'
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