In this culture the soul and the heart too often go homeless. Listening creates a holy silence. When you listen generously to people, they can hear the truth in themselves, often for the first time. And in the silence of listening, you can know yourself in everyone. Eventually you may be able to hear, in everyone and beyond everyone, the unseen singing softly to itself and to you.
Helping, fixing, and serving represent three different ways of seeing life. When you help, you see life as weak. when you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may be the work of the ego, and service the work of the soul.
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What this quote means
The quote emphasizes different perspectives on life, distinguishing between helping and fixing as ego-driven actions, while serving reflects a more holistic and soulful outlook.
Rachel Naomi Remen's quote poignantly illustrates how our approach to assisting others can be reflective of deeper beliefs about life itself. When we help someone, we might perceive them and their circumstances as fragile, while fixing suggests we view them as inherently flawed. In contrast, serving indicates a recognition of the wholeness of life and the interconnectedness of all beings, suggesting that true service stems from a place of compassion and understanding rather than from an egoistic desire to elevate ourselves.
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Example use cases
This quote can be used in a motivational speech to inspire volunteers at a charity event.
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