Grown-ups love figures... When you tell them you've made a new friend they never ask you any questions about essential matters. They never say to you "What does his voice sound like? What games does he love best? Does he collect butterflies? " Instead they demand "How old is he? How much does he weigh? How much money does his father make? " Only from these figures do they think they have learned anything about him.
The friend within the man is that part of him which belongs to you and opens to you a door which never, perhaps, is opened to another. Such a friend is true, and all he says is true; and he loves you even if he hates you in other mansions of his heart.
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What this quote means
True friendship connects deeply, allowing for honesty and loyalty even amidst conflicting feelings.
This quote by Antoine De Saint-Exupery reflects on the nature of true friendship, suggesting that there exists a deep part of a person that can be uniquely shared with a true friend. It highlights the idea that true friends possess a bond that transcends superficial interactions, allowing for an intimate connection where they can express their authentic selves, including admitting both love and conflict that may exist in other aspects of their lives.
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Example use cases
In a speech about the importance of deep connections, I might say, 'As Antoine De Saint-Exupery said, the friend within the man opens a door to true understanding.'
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A friend is one with whom you are comfortable, to whom you are loyal, through whom you are blessed, and for whom you are grateful.
Is that the basis of friendship? Is it as reactive as that? Do we respond only to people who seem to find us interesting?... Do we all buzz or ring or light up when people press our vanity buttons, and only then? Can I think of anyone in my whole life whom I have liked without his first showing signs of liking me?
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There is no friend like an old friend who has shared our morning days, no greeting like his welcome, no homage like his praise.