She discovered with great delight that one does not love one's children just because they are one's children but because of the friendship formed while raising them.
Interpretation
Love for children is rooted in the bonds of friendship developed during their upbringing.
In this quote, Gabriel Garcia Marquez highlights the idea that parental love is not solely a biological instinct but is profoundly influenced by the emotional connections and friendships built during the process of raising children. It suggests that the relationship between parents and children is nurtured through shared experiences and mutual respect, leading to a deeper, more meaningful love that transcends mere obligation.
In practice
During a family gathering, a parent might share this quote to emphasize the bond they cherish with their children.
He said that people who loved [animals] to excess were capable of the worst cruelties toward human beings. He said that dogs were not loyal but servile, that cats were opportunists and traitors, that peacocks were heralds of death, that macaws were simply decorative annoyances, that rabbits fomented greed, that monkeys carried the fever of lust, and that roosters were damned because they had been complicit in the three denials of Christ.
Amputees suffer pains, cramps, itches in the leg that is no longer there. That is how she felt without him, feeling his presence where he no longer was.
She had the revelation one Sunday that while the other instruments played for everyone the violen played for her alone .
He sank into the rocking chair, the same one in which Rebecca had sat during the early days of the house to give embroidery lessons, and in which Amaranta had played Chinese checkers with Colonel Gerineldo Marquez, and in which Amarana Ursula had sewn the tiny clothing for the child, and in that flash of lucidity he became aware that he was unable to bear in his soul the crushing weight of so much past.
Nobody deserves your tears, but whoever deserves them will not make you cry.
Both described at the same time how it was always March there and always Monday, and then they understood that José Arcadio Buendía was not as crazy as the family said, but that he was the only one who had enough lucidity to sense the truth of the fact that time also stumbled and had accidents and could therefore splinter and leave an eternalized fragment in a room.
My own eight children all march to the beat of their inner music, and in some cases, it is definitely far away from what I hear. I've had to honor their instincts and their choices, and merely guided them out of harm's way until they could be their own guides.
My parents taught me service - not by saying, but by doing. That was my culture, the culture of my family.
You can't make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn't made them wish they had.
I have never once regretted missing a business opportunity so that I could be with my children and grandchildren.
Celebrate your family's bleakest moments and how your relatives overcame them. In doing so, you will encounter darkness, but you'll give your children the confidence that they, too, shall overcome.
Peace is one of the greatest gifts we can leave our children.
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