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Here's my advice to you: don't marry until you can tell yourself that you've done all you could, and until you've stopped loving the women you've chosen, until you see her clearly, otherwise you'll be cruelly and irremediably mistaken. Marry when you're old and good for nothing...Otherwise all that's good and lofty in you will be lost.
Leo Tolstoy
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What this quote means

Wait until you're fully prepared and sure before committing to marriage.

This quote by Leo Tolstoy emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and clarity in love before entering into marriage. It suggests that one should not marry until they are capable of fully understanding their feelings and the responsibilities involved, implying that marrying too early can lead to misplaced affections and regrets that can be detrimental to both partners.

Themes

MarriageLoveSelf-AwarenessCommitmentRelationships

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Example use cases

This quote can be shared during a wedding speech to emphasize the importance of understanding love before marriage.

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