You can't make homes out of human beings.
Interpretation
People cannot be expected to fulfill all emotional needs or be treated as possessions.
This quote by Warsan Shire highlights the inadequacy of relying on others to complete us or provide a sense of belonging. It suggests that we should not treat individuals as mere tools for our emotional satisfaction, as this can lead to unhealthy relationships and emotional turmoil.
In practice
In a workshop on healthy relationships, one might quote this to emphasize the need for personal fulfillment.
I’m not sad, but the boys who are looking for sad girls always find me. I’m not a girl anymore and I’m not sad anymore. You want me to be a tragic backdrop so that you can appear to be illuminated, so that people can say ‘Wow, isn't he so terribly brave to love a girl who is so obviously sad?’ You think I’ll be the dark sky so you can be the star? I’ll swallow you whole.
We took such care of tomorrow, but died on the way there.
Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself - what you're wearing, who you're around, what you're doing. Recreate and repeat.
Every mouth you’ve ever kissed was just practice. All the bodies you’ve ever undressed and ploughed in to were preparing you for me. I don’t mind tasting them in the memory of your mouth. _x000D_ Was it a long journey? Did it take you long to find me? _x000D_ You’re here now, welcome home.
Make peace with your body, it's not manmade, there are no flaws, there are no mistakes.
Make love like you have no secrets like you've never been left never been hurt like the world don't owe you a single wretched thing.
Men are said to desire women, Severian. Why do they despise the women they obtain?
I am clearly vulnerable to these more passionate and volatile unstable relationships. I am trying to not be so vulnerable.
The tongue has no bones, but can break a heart.
So she viewed time spent in the land of the normal as an investigation into the world of marriage-worthy men, even if she was unsure about her own interest in marriage. There must be one solid citizen who also had a spark of life, a sense of humor and adventure.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Do you know what makes the prison disappear? Every deep, genuine affection. Being friends, being brothers, loving, that is what opens the prison, with supreme power, by some magic force. Without these one stays dead. But whenever affection is revived, there life revives.
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