Of the widow's countless death-duties there is really just one that matters: on the first anniversary of her husband's death the widow should think I kept myself alive.
Joyce Carol OatesRead
The innocence of such children doesn't answer our deepest questions about this vale of tears to which we are condemned, but it helps to dispel them. That is the secret to family life.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The purity of children's innocence may not solve life's profound issues, but it can alleviate them.
This quote by Joyce Carol Oates reflects on the complexity of human existence, often filled with suffering ('vale of tears'). While the innocence of children does not provide definitive answers to our more serious inquiries about life and its challenges, it offers a comforting perspective that can lighten our burdens. The essence of family life, as highlighted here, is found in embracing this innocence, which serves as a source of solace amidst the difficulties we face.
Themes
InnocenceFamilyLifeChildrenComfortBurden
In practice
Example use cases
During a family gathering, you could use this quote to highlight the importance of cherishing children's perspectives.
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