As honour, love, obedience, troops of friends, / I must not look to have; but, in their stead, / Curses, not loud but deep, mouth-honour, breath, / Which the poor heart would fain deny, and dare not" (5.3.25-28).
William ShakespeareRead
LEONATO Well, niece, I hope to see you one day fitted with a husband. BEATRICE Not till God make men of some other metal than earth. Would it not grieve a woman to be overmastered with a pierce of valiant dust? to make an account of her life to a clod of wayward marl? No, uncle, I'll none: Adam's sons are my brethren; and, truly, I hold it a sin to match in my kindred.
Interpretation
Beatrice expresses her disdain for marrying men who are flawed and earthly, suggesting that true compatibility is rare.
In this quote from Shakespeare's 'Much Ado About Nothing', Beatrice articulates her reluctance to marry, criticizing the nature of men as being made from 'earth' and not worthy of her affection. She implies that to submit to a man is to be 'overmastered' by something inferior, as she values individuality and strength over societal expectations of marriage, viewing her male counterparts as flawed and unworthy of a union with her.
In practice
This quote can be shared during a discussion on modern relationships and the importance of mutual respect.
As honour, love, obedience, troops of friends, / I must not look to have; but, in their stead, / Curses, not loud but deep, mouth-honour, breath, / Which the poor heart would fain deny, and dare not" (5.3.25-28).
Love bears it out even to the edge of doom.
Good company, good wine, good welcome, can make good people.
Absence doth sharpen love, presence strengthens it; the one brings fuel, the other blows it till it burns clear.
Lord, Lord, how this world is given to lying!
Give it an understanding, but no tongue.
In grief, words are a poor consolation - silence and agonizing tears are all that is left the sufferer.
A desire for social connection is fundamentally hardwired into our psychology, and so being deprived of it has devastating mental and physical consequences. Yet we live in a society which has become ever more fragmented and atomised.
The divine right of husbands, like the divine right of kings, may, it is hoped, in this enlightened age, be contested without danger.
I've always tried to balance my life with what is good for me but also keeping in mind how it affects somebody else.
What does open us is sharing our vulnerabilities. Sometimes we see a couple who has done this difficult work over a lifetime. In the process, they have grown old together. We can sense the enormous comfort, the shared quality of ease between these people. It is beautiful, and very rare. Without this quality of openness and vulnerability, partners don't really know each other; they are one image living with another image.
Poor Oscar. Without even realizing it he'd fallen into one of those Let's Be Friends Vortexes, the bane of nerdboys everywhere. These relationships were love's version of a stay in the stocks, in you go, plenty of misery guaranteed and what you got out of it besides bitterness and heartbreak nobody knows. Perhaps some knowledge of self and women.
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