Always' was a promise! How can you just break the promise?" "Sometimes people don't always understand the promises they're making when they make them," I said. Isaac shot me a look. "Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That's what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway. Don't you believe in true love?" I didn't answer. I didn't have an answer. But I thought that if true love did exist, that was a pretty good definition of it.
I realized that all my life, my values were based upon typical middle-class American values: hard work, doing good, living well, owning things, following the rules & being the best I can be... but God clearly says, "those are not MY values. I value justice, mercy & humility.
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What this quote means
The quote contrasts societal values with spiritual values, highlighting a pursuit beyond materialism.
In this quote, John Green reflects on the realization that his lifelong adherence to conventional middle-class American values—such as hard work, material success, and rule-following—does not align with what he interprets as divine values of justice, mercy, and humility. This insight invites a deeper examination of our priorities and encourages a shift from external measures of success to more profound, ethically-oriented principles that align with spiritual beliefs.
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In a keynote speech on personal development, you could use this quote to stress the importance of aligning personal values with ethical standards.
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So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that's not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren't constantly berating yourself for being sad.
We kiss. Her hands are freezing on my face, and she tastes like coffee and the smell of the onion is still stuck in my nose, and my lips are all dry from the endless winter. And it's awesome.
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