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Is love an art? Then it requires knowledge and effort. Love is not a spontaneous feeling, a thing that you fall into, but is something that requires thought, knowledge, care, giving, and respect. And it is something that is rare and difficult to find in capitalism, which commodifies human activity.
Erich Fromm
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Love is a skill that requires knowledge, effort, and respect, rather than just a spontaneous feeling.

In this quote, Erich Fromm emphasizes that love should not be viewed as an effortless, spontaneous emotion, but rather as an art that requires dedication, understanding, and respect. He critiques the way capitalism commodifies relationships and emotions, highlighting that true love is a rare and valuable endeavor that demands continuous effort and mindfulness.

Themes

LoveArtKnowledgeEffortRespectCapitalism

In practice

Example use cases

During a relationship workshop, to explain the importance of nurturing love.

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