In working to end violence against women and children, we need to ensure that men are centrally involved. Men need to organise themselves in a sustained campaign against gender-based violence.
Cyril RamaphosaRead
No man is born believing that he has dominion over women. Instead, this view is handed down from generation to generation and amplified through social custom, culture, and popular media.
Interpretation
Beliefs about gender dominance are learned and perpetuated by society rather than being innate.
This quote by Cyril Ramaphosa emphasizes that the idea of male dominance over women is not something inherent at birth but rather a learned behavior that is transmitted through various societal channels such as customs, culture, and media. It suggests that patriarchal beliefs are not natural but constructed, highlighting the need to challenge and change these longstanding narratives to promote equality.
In practice
In a discussion about gender equality at a conference.
In working to end violence against women and children, we need to ensure that men are centrally involved. Men need to organise themselves in a sustained campaign against gender-based violence.
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