What was any art but a mould in which to imprison for a moment the shining elusive element which is life itself - life hurrying past us and running away, too strong to stop, too sweet to lose.
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A man long accustomed to admire his wife in general, seldom pauses to admire her in a particular gown or attitude, unless his attention is directed to her by the appreciative gaze of another man.
Interpretation
What this quote means
People often overlook the uniqueness of their partners until someone else expresses appreciation.
Willa Cather's quote suggests that familiarity can blind us to the particular qualities we once admired in our partners. When we are exposed to admiration from another, we become more aware of and appreciate the specific attributes that make our loved ones special, reinforcing the importance of recognition and external validation in relationships.
Themes
AppreciationRelationshipsAdmirationRecognitionLove
In practice
Example use cases
During a wedding toast, a friend might quote this to highlight how admiration evolves in relationships.
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