We start making every child ambitious, and ambition means you cannot love; ambition is anti-love. Ambition needs fight, ambition needs struggle, ambition needs you to use others as a means.
Marriage is an effort to legalize love. It is out of fear. It is thinking about the future, about the tomorrows. Man always thinks of the past and the future, and because of this constant thinking about past and future, he destroys the present. And the present is the only reality there is. One has to live in the present. The past has to die and has to be allowed to die.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Marriage seeks to formalize love but often stems from fear of the future, leading to the distraction from living in the present.
In this quote, Rajneesh reflects on the nature of marriage and human thought. He suggests that marriage is an attempt to solidify love through legal means, often motivated by fear and anxiety about the future. Additionally, he emphasizes that the preoccupation with past and future can overshadow the importance of the present moment, which he argues is the only true reality. To fully experience life, one must embrace the present and let go of past regrets and future worries.
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Example use cases
During a wedding speech, you can use this quote to highlight the significance of living in the moment together.
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