He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
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Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Marriage can often lead to feelings of ownership and envy, which can restrict personal freedom.
In this quote, Irvin D. Yalom suggests that the institution of marriage, along with its accompanying emotions of possession and jealousy, can suffocate individual freedom and hinder personal growth. The idea is that rather than fostering a sense of partnership, these negative emotions can create a form of bondage that enslaves the spirit, ultimately impacting both individuals' sense of self and their capacity for genuine connection.
Themes
MarriagePossessionJealousyFreedomRelationships
In practice
Example use cases
This quote could be used during a marriage counseling session to address underlying issues.
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