We start making every child ambitious, and ambition means you cannot love; ambition is anti-love. Ambition needs fight, ambition needs struggle, ambition needs you to use others as a means.
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Why has marriage failed? In the first place, we raised it to unnatural standards. We tried to make it something permanent, something sacred, without knowing even the abc of sacredness, without knowing anything about the eternal. Our intentions were good but our understanding was very small, almost negligible. So instead of marriage becoming something of a heaven, it has become a hell. Instead of becoming sacred, it has fallen even below profanity.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote suggests that unrealistic expectations of marriage lead to disappointment and conflict.
Rajneesh articulates the idea that marriages often fail because they are held to unrealistic and elevated standards, aiming for permanence and sacredness without a true understanding of what those concepts entail. He highlights that while intentions may be positive, a lack of deep comprehension about the nature of marriage transforms what could be a blissful union into a source of suffering. The emphasis is on recognizing the flaws in how we view and approach marital commitments, acknowledging that they often fall short of the divine ideals we impose on them.
Themes
MarriageRelationshipsExpectationsUnderstandingCommitment
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be shared during a wedding seminar to emphasize realistic expectations in marriages.
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