There's life for you. Spend the best years of your life studying penmanship and rhetoric and syntax and Beowulf and George Eliot, and then somebody steals your pencil.
Dorothy ParkerRead
Men They hail you as their morning star Because you are the way you are. If you return the sentiment, They'll try to make you different; And once they have you, safe and sound, They want to change you all around. Your moods and ways they put a curse on; They'd make of you another person. They cannot let you go your gait; They influence and educate. They'd alter all that they admired. They make me sick, they make me tired.
Interpretation
What this quote means
People often admire and idealize others but seek to change them once they become close.
This quote by Dorothy Parker reflects the struggle individuals face in relationships when others project their expectations and desires onto them. Initially, someone may be celebrated for their unique qualities, but as the relationship evolves, there is often pressure to conform or change to meet those expectations. This paradox highlights the tension between admiration and acceptance of individuality in interpersonal dynamics.
Themes
RelationshipsChangeIndividualityExpectationsIdentity
In practice
Example use cases
During a workshop on personal growth, one might use this quote to discuss the importance of authenticity.
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