My father wasn't a cruel man. And I loved him. But he was a pretty tough character. His own father was even tougher - one of those Victorians, hard as iron - but my dad was tough enough.
My mother, she didn't believe in praise. She'd never say anything was great. I think that's quite Northern, to not make people feel too good. I didn't mind if she was proud of me or not, it didn't bother me. I was never trying to please her.
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What this quote means
This quote reflects on a mother's pragmatic approach to praise and the impact it had on her child's emotional development.
Victoria Wood's quote highlights her mother's tendency to refrain from giving praise, which she associates with a regional cultural trait. The speaker expresses a sense of independence from seeking validation, suggesting that the absence of overt encouragement did not diminish their self-worth or efforts. This perspective emphasizes resilience and the notion that feelings of pride and validation can come from within rather than external approval.
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In a speech about personal growth, one might say, 'Like Victoria Wood, I learned to find my own value rather than always seeking it from others.'
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