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What if we never 'get over' certain deaths, or our childhoods? What if the idea that we should have by now, or will, is a great palace lie? What if we're not supposed to? What if it takes a life time...?
Anne Lamott
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Interpretation

What this quote means

This quote challenges the notion of moving on from loss or past experiences, suggesting that it's natural to carry them throughout life.

Anne Lamott's quote explores the complex relationship we have with grief and our pasts, proposing that the expectation to 'get over' certain painful experiences may be misleading. Instead, she invites us to consider that some memories and losses remain with us, shaping our identity and understanding over a lifetime, and that perhaps this is a part of the human experience rather than a problem to overcome.

Themes

GriefLossMemoriesChildhoodAcceptance

In practice

Example use cases

During a memorial service, I shared this quote to highlight the ongoing nature of grief.

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