Gordie, the white boy genius, gave me this book by a Russian dude named Tolstoy, who wrote, 'Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.' Well, I hate to argue with a Russian genius, but Tolstoy didn't know Indians, and he didn't know that all Indian families are unhappy for the same exact reasons: the frikkin' booze.
And none of these people, not one of them, had loved any of the others well enough. Failures, he thought, we're all failures... He wanted his love to be the wine and bread, and the blood and flesh. He reached for her, a dangerous stranger in a city of dangerous strangers, but she turned away from him and walked unsteadily through the crowd. How many loveless people walk among the barely loved?
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What this quote means
The quote reflects on the inadequacies of love among people, portraying a sense of loneliness and yearning for deeper connection.
In this poignant observation, Sherman Alexie highlights the emptiness many individuals experience due to a lack of genuine love and emotional connection. The protagonist's desire for profound love is juxtaposed against the failures of others to fully embrace or reciprocate that love, illustrating a painful reality of living among people who are emotionally distant and unfulfilled. The metaphor of love as essential sustenance—comparable to wine and bread—emphasizes the idea that true love is vital for a meaningful existence.
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This quote could be shared during a discussion on the importance of deep relationships at a community meeting.
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