The biggest problem that women have is being ambivalent about their own power, ... We should be comfortable with the idea of wielding power. We shouldn't feel that it detracts from our femininity.
No one who had never been depressed like me could imagine that the pain could get so bad that death became a star to hitch up to, a fantasy of peace someday which seemed better than any life with all this noise in my head.
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What this quote means
The quote reflects the profound pain of depression and the allure of the thought of death as an escape from that suffering.
In this quote, Elizabeth Wurtzel explores the depths of depression, describing how intense mental anguish can lead one to consider death as a peaceful alternative to the overwhelming noise and pain of life. The imagery of 'hitching a star' to death symbolizes a longing for release and tranquility, highlighting how those who have never experienced such despair may find it difficult to comprehend the power of that pain and the desire for an end to suffering.
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Example use cases
This quote could be used in a mental health awareness campaign to illustrate the severity of depression.
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