It's not about curing the disease, but healing the life; then the physical benefits come.
Part of my evolution has been to learn how painful most people's childhoods are. They grow up not liking themselves, not loving themselves. Ask people if they were lovable the minute they were born, and watch them sit back and have to think about it. One lady said, 'I suppose so.' That's painful.
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What this quote means
The quote reflects on the emotional scars carried from childhood that affect self-love and self-acceptance in adulthood.
Bernie Siegel's quote highlights the often unrecognized impact of childhood experiences on individuals' self-perception and emotional well-being. It underscores the pain of growing up in an environment where self-love is absent, prompting individuals to question their inherent worth from the moment they enter the world. This painful reflection can reveal deep-seated issues related to acceptance and self-esteem that persist into adulthood, emphasizing the need for nurturing and supportive childhood experiences.
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In a motivational talk about overcoming childhood trauma and building self-acceptance.
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