Science is a way to not fool ourselves.
Carl SaganRead
Perhaps the depth of love can be calibrated by the number of different selves that are actively involved in a given relationship.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quality of love is determined by how many aspects of ourselves we share with others in a relationship.
In this quote, Carl Sagan suggests that love is multifaceted and deepened by the diverse expressions of our identities in a relationship. A meaningful connection allows various 'selves'—our emotions, vulnerabilities, dreams, and experiences—to interact, which enriches the bond and deepens our understanding and appreciation for one another.
Themes
LoveRelationshipsSelfConnectionIdentity
In practice
Example use cases
During a wedding speech, one can use this quote to emphasize the importance of sharing oneself in marriage.
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