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Psychologists call this habituation, economists call it declining marginal utility, and the rest of us call it marriage.
Daniel Gilbert
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What this quote means

The quote humorously suggests that the excitement and value in marriage diminish over time.

Daniel Gilbert's quote cleverly highlights the concept that, much like in psychology and economics, the initial joy and utility derived from marriage can decrease as familiarity sets in. Habituation, the process of becoming accustomed to something, parallels the fading thrill in a marital relationship, suggesting that while marriage can start with great passion, it often becomes routine as time passes.

Themes

MarriageHabituationRelationshipsHappinessLove

In practice

Example use cases

During a wedding toast to reflect on the changing nature of love over time.

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