A wound does not destroy us. It activates our self-healing powers. The point is not to "put it behind you" but to keep benefiting from the strength it has awakened.
David RichoRead
Once we make our relationship choices in an adult way, a prospective partner who is unavailable, nonreciprocal, or not open to processing feelings and issues, becomes, by those very facts, unappealing. Once we love ourselves, people no longer look good to us unless they are good for us.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of self-love and mature relationship choices in attracting suitable partners.
David Richo's quote explains that when we maturely choose our relationships and emphasize self-love, we naturally become less attracted to partners who lack emotional availability or reciprocity. Essentially, as we grow in self-worth, our standards for relationships also rise, leading us to seek partners who genuinely align with our emotional needs and contribute positively to our well-being.
Themes
Self-LoveRelationshipsMaturityStandardsEmotional Availability
In practice
Example use cases
During a relationship workshop, this quote can inspire participants to reflect on their self-worth before seeking partners.
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