My reaction to porno films is as follows: After the first ten minutes, I want to go home and screw. After the first twenty minutes, I never want to screw again as long as I live.
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There is a rhythm to the ending of a marriage just like the rhythm of a courtship-only backward. You try to start again but get into blaming over and over. Finally you are both worn out, exhausted, hopeless. Then lawyers are called in to pick clean the corpses. The death has occurred much earlier.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The end of a marriage follows a predictable cycle, much like how it began, but with negative emotions dominating the process.
Erica Jong illustrates the difficult and often painful process of a marriage's ending, likening it to a rhythmic pattern that mirrors the courtship but in reverse. As partners transition from hopefulness to blame and exhaustion, the inevitable conclusion—a divorce—inevitably brings in legal intervention to finalize what has long been emotionally deceased.
Themes
MarriageDivorceRelationshipsEndingsEmotions
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about the difficulties of a divorce process.
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