These things, she felt, were not to be passed around like disingenuous party favors. She kept an honor code with her journals and her poems. 'Inside, inside,' she would whisper quietly to herself when she felt the urge to tell.
She sat in her room on the couch my parents had given up on and worked on hardening herself. Take deep breaths and hold them. Try to stay still for longer and longer periods of time. Make yourself small and like a stone. Curl the edges of yourself up and fold them under where no one can see. ~pg 29, Susie's sister Lindsey dealing with grief.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote reflects the process of coping with grief by encouraging self-preservation and introspection.
In this poignant moment from Alice Sebold's narrative, Lindsey is depicted as retreating into herself as a means to navigate her grief. The act of hardening oneself suggests an attempt to protect against emotional pain, while the imagery of curling up like a stone indicates a desire to become impervious to the outside world and its overwhelming emotions. This straddling of vulnerability and resilience highlights a universal human experience in the face of loss.
Themes
In practice
Example use cases
In a support group for bereaved families, this quote could be shared to highlight the personal journey of coping with loss.
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