Often I listen to songs on repeat for days and days at a time. There's something hypnotic or meditative, and it mirrors the way that I am putting the sentence together, going back over the same phrases again and again.
My sense of injustice about our family's 'weirdness' in not owning a car was amplified by the fact that we did not own a television, either - my parents were unapologetic about this and told me very cheerfully that I would thank them for it when I was older, which was quite true.
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What this quote means
The quote reflects on how growing up without certain modern conveniences can shape one's perspective on family values and choices.
Eleanor Catton's quote expresses a sense of injustice felt during her childhood due to her family's unconventional lifestyle of not owning a car or television. Despite this feeling, she acknowledges that her parents had a positive outlook on these choices and believed that, in time, she would appreciate their decision to prioritize values over material possessions, which ultimately contributed to her personal growth and understanding of life.
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Example use cases
In a family discussion about values and material possessions, this quote can illustrate the positive outcomes of choosing simplicity.
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