Love, experienced thus, is a constant challenge; it is not a resting place, but a moving, growing, working together; even whether there is harmony or conflict; joy or sadness, is secondary to the fundamental fact that two people experience themselves from the essence of their existence, that they are only one with each other by being one with themselves, rather than by fleeing from themselves.
A society whose principles are acquisition, profit, and property produces a social character oriented around having, and once the dominant pattern is established, nobody wants to be an outsider, or indeed an outcast; in order to avoid this risk everybody adapts to the majority, who have in common only their mutual antagonism.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote critiques a society that values materialism over individual authenticity, leading to a conformist mentality.
Erich Fromm's quote highlights the consequences of a society driven by acquisition and property, suggesting that such values foster a social character that prioritizes belonging and conformity over individuality. In this environment, people may feel compelled to suppress their true selves to fit in with the majority, even if this leads to mutual antagonism among individuals. The quote serves as a warning about the dangers of materialism and the loss of authentic human connections.
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Example use cases
This quote can be used in a speech addressing the pitfalls of consumer culture during a community event.
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