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To make someone an icon is to make him an abstraction, and abstractions are incapable of vital communication with living people.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Icons represent abstract ideas rather than real, living connections with individuals.
This quote by David Foster Wallace suggests that when we elevate someone to the status of an icon, we strip away their humanity and complexities, reducing them to an abstraction. As a result, this abstraction can create a disconnect, preventing genuine communication and understanding with real, living people, thereby emphasizing the importance of connecting on a human level rather than idolizing figures as mere symbols.
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Example use cases
In a discussion about celebrity culture, one might say, 'As David Foster Wallace pointed out, making someone an icon reduces them to an abstraction, hindering genuine communication.'
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