When one begins to think about it, America depends rather heavily on women's passive dependence, their femininity. Femininity, if one still wants to call it that, makes American women a target and a victim of the sexual sell.
Betty FriedanRead
Each suburban wife struggles with it alone. As she made the beds, shopped for groceries, matched slipcover material, ate peanut butter sandwiches with her children, chauffeured Cub Scouts and Brownies, lay beside her husband at night- she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question-- 'Is this all?
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects the isolation and unfulfilled aspirations of suburban wives in the mid-20th century.
Betty Friedan's quote highlights the internal struggle of suburban wives who, despite their seemingly mundane daily tasks and responsibilities, grapple with a profound sense of dissatisfaction and longing for more in life. It encapsulates the existential questioning many women faced about the meaning and value of their roles, prompting them to wonder if their lives held any greater purpose beyond domesticity.
Themes
SuburbanWivesStruggleIdentityDomesticExistential
In practice
Example use cases
Discussing gender roles at a women's empowerment event.
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All quotes →Over and over again, stories in women's magazines insist that women can know fulfillment only at the moment of giving birth to a child. They deny the years when she can no longer look forward to giving birth, even if she repeats the act over and over again. In the feminine mystique, there is no other way for a woman to dream of creation or of the future. There is no other way she can even dream about herself, except as her children's mother, her husband's wife.
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It is easier to live through someone else than to complete yourself. The freedom to lead and plan your own life is frightening if you have never faced it before. It is frightening when a woman finally realizes that there is no answer to the question 'who am I' except the voice inside herself.
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