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At that time, he was satisfying a sensual curiosity by experiencing the pleasures of people who live for love. He had believed he could stop there, that he would not be obliged to learn their sorrows; how small a thing her charm was for him now compared with the astounding terror that extended out from it like a murky halo, the immense anguish of not knowing at every moment what she had been doing, of not possessing her everywhere and always!
Marcel Proust
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Interpretation

What this quote means

The quote explores the deep emotional complexities of love, highlighting how initial attractions can lead to profound anxieties about possession and uncertainty.

In this passage by Marcel Proust, the narrator reflects on the dual nature of love, where initial attractions are soon overshadowed by feelings of insecurity and fear of loss. The sensual pleasures derived from romantic connections are counterbalanced by a deep-seated anguish stemming from a lack of complete understanding and possession of the beloved, showcasing the intricate and often painful side of love that goes beyond mere enjoyment.

Themes

LoveAnguishSorrowInsecurityRomance

In practice

Example use cases

In a discussion about the complexities of love during a relationship seminar.

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