Love is - OK, it's 20 things, but it isn't 19. And I think that love reaches for something which is very, very deep in us and is very easily obscured, and is also very easily denied, which is the instinct towards the other person, other than toward the self.
We drift down time, clutching at straws. But what good's a brick to a drowning man?
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What this quote means
This quote suggests that in desperate situations, we often grasp at futile solutions. It highlights the absurdity of relying on ineffective help when we are in real trouble.
Tom Stoppard's quote reflects on the human tendency to seek solutions even when those solutions are impractical or ineffective, particularly during moments of crisis. The imagery of 'drifting down time' indicates a passive approach to life's challenges, while 'clutching at straws' signifies desperate attempts to find hope in unlikely places. Ultimately, the metaphor of ‘a brick to a drowning man’ underscores the futility of relying on heavy and unsuitable help when what is needed is something that can truly save us.
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Example use cases
In a motivational speech about overcoming challenges, one might quote this to illustrate how misguided efforts can lead to more frustration.
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