If people start to buy the idea that machines are great companions for the elderly or for children, as they increasingly seem to do, we are really playing with fire.
Sherry TurkleRead
Networked, we are together, but so lessened are our expectations of each other that we can feel utterly alone. And there is the risk that we come to see others as objects to be accessed—and only for the parts we find useful, comforting, or amusing.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Despite being connected through technology, our expectations of interpersonal relationships have diminished, leading to feelings of loneliness.
In a world where technology allows us to connect with countless others effortlessly, we often find ourselves feeling isolated. Sherry Turkle's quote highlights the paradox of modern connectivity: while we are digitally networked, our expectations of true companionship and understanding have declined. This can result in our tendency to view others merely as sources of convenience or entertainment, which undermines the depth of genuine human relationships and can ultimately leave us feeling alone.
Themes
LonelinessConnectionExpectationsRelationshipsTechnology
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about the impact of social media on mental health.
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