Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement.
Alfred AdlerRead
We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. In none of the serious and important tasks of life do we arrange such a "getaway." We cannot love and be limited.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Real love involves a commitment that does not allow for escape or withdrawal.
In this quote, Alfred Adler emphasizes that true love and meaningful marriages are characterized by unwavering commitment. He suggests that when individuals consider the possibility of leaving a relationship, they are not fully investing their energy and emotions, thus undermining the authenticity of their love. Commitment to love requires a complete dedication that does not entertain the idea of 'getting away'.
Themes
LoveCommitmentMarriageDedicationRelationships
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used at a wedding ceremony to emphasize the importance of commitment in marriage.
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