Love built on beauty, soon as beauty, dies.
John DonneRead
I call not that virginity a virtue, which resideth onely in the bodies integrity; much less if it be with a purpose of perpetually keeping it: for then it is a most inhumane vice. - But I call that Virginity a virtue which is willing and desirous to yield it self upon honest and lawfull terms, when just reason requireth; and until then, is kept with a modest chastity of body and mind.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Virginity is not merely about physical integrity, but about the willingness to share oneself under appropriate circumstances.
John Donne's quote expresses a nuanced view of virginity, emphasizing that true virtue lies not in mere physical preservation but in the intention and conditions under which one chooses to yield their body and soul. He advocates for a conception of virginity that honors both modesty and the rightful desires of love, suggesting that it should be given freely and respectfully when the situation calls for it, rather than hoarded as a rigid obligation.
Themes
VirginityLoveVirtueChastityModesty
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about relationships, this quote can help clarify the value of emotional connection over physical restraint.
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