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I am the woman I grew to be partly in spite of my mother, and partly because of the extraordinary love of her best friends, and my own best friends' mothers, and from surrogates, many of whom were not women at all but gay men. I have loved them my entire life, even after their passing.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The speaker reflects on how various influences shaped her identity, emphasizing the impact of both her mother and her wider support network.
In this quote, Anne Lamott shares her journey of self-discovery and personal growth, highlighting how both her mother and the love of her mother's friends, along with her own friends' mothers and supportive figures of diverse identities, contributed to her development as a woman. This acknowledgment of a broad spectrum of influences underscores the importance of community and the deep bonds formed through unconditional love, regardless of traditional roles or gender. It suggests that one’s identity is often shaped not just by family but also by the diverse relationships we build throughout our lives.
Themes
IdentityLoveFriendshipSupportInfluence
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about the importance of community support in personal development.
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