The word dysfunction has, I think, served its purpose and now has lost its meaning. Every family, like every person, is imperfect, after all. The idea that there is a family somewhere who functions, is an odd concept. In my youth I was running from my family to try to find out who I was-their influence distracted me. Now I see what a powerful hold they have, no matter what.
Interpretation
Dysfunction is a normal aspect of every family, highlighting the imperfections that shape individual identity.
In this quote, Susan Minot expresses the idea that the term 'dysfunction' no longer accurately represents the complexities of family life, as every family possesses its own imperfections. She reflects on her past desire to escape her family's influence in search of self-identity, only to realize later the significant impact they have on her life, emphasizing the inescapable bond of family despite its flaws.
In practice
During a family therapy session, discussing the idea of dysfunction in families.
All the awards in the world, you can get into all the nightclubs, they'll send you the nicest clothes. Nothing better than walking into your dad's restaurant and seeing a smile on his face and knowing that your mom and dad and your sister are real proud of you.
The simplest toy, one which even the youngest child can operate, is called a grandparent.
As long as God gives me strength to work and try to make things real for my children, I'm going to work for it - even if it means making the ultimate sacrifice.
Some morning while your eating breakfast and you need something new to think about, though, you might want to ponder the fact that you see your kids across the table not as they are but as they once were, about three nanoseconds ago.
One of my main wishes in wanting to write about my mother was to explore the impact of her death on my life, explore our relationship, think about the different versions of myself that I was with and without her. I also had the really strong wish to bring her to life for my children, who were born after she was gone.
Life began with waking up and loving my mother's face.
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