I work very deliberately, with a plan. But sometimes I come to a point that I planned as the end and it needs softening. Ending a novel is almost like putting a child to sleep - it can't be done abruptly.
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You create a world away from home and make new rooms for yourself. But when you arrive back home in your old rooms, the world you've made for yourself ceases to be real. Everything seems to crumble. Anyone who's been sent away to boarding school can understand that.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Creating a new identity can be challenging when returning to familiar places.
This quote reflects on the experience of personal growth and identity formation as one navigates different environments. Colm Toibin expresses how the new worlds we create for ourselves may feel less authentic when juxtaposed with the old, familiar settings of home, highlighting the tension between our evolving selves and our pasts that seem unchangeable.
Themes
IdentityHomeGrowthChangeBoarding School
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about personal growth after studying abroad, you might use this quote.
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